Putting Myself First

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For as long as I can remember I have had to take care of someone or put other’s needs before mine. Now that life has calmed down, it’s strange having this extra time and worrying only about myself. I think many people, especially woman, struggle with being selfish. After all, women are born caretakers; it’s in our blood to be nurturing and empathetic. But I am slowly getting used to doing things for me without feeling guilty about it.

Every week since I have moved into my own apartment, I have bought a fresh bouquet of flowers for myself. I love the bright colors and how beautiful they make my apartment smell. It’s a simple act, but one that makes me happy. I’ve also had to stop myself from buying things for others while I am in the supermarket or a store (it’s so hard!). Instead of making those extra purchases, I’ve been putting that money towards my bills and savings. And a few days a week my boyfriend and I take a walk around our neighborhood. It’s nice walking at our own pace without feeling rushed.

No matter how hectic life is, it’s important to set aside some time for yourself. A little selfishness is good for the soul.

“If you put everyone else first, you will always be last.”

“Putting yourself first is not selfish. Thinking about yourself constantly is. Know the difference.”

“Never allow someone to be your priority, while allowing yourself to be their option.” – Mark Twain