I think it is essential for all human-beings to empower each other and share their own experiences, whether it be good or bad. Simply by admitting that you went through something could potentially help give someone hope or teach a lesson. Especially as a woman, I want to share my own journey of accepting myself and show young girls that no one is perfect.
Being the oldest sibling and growing up with three brothers has made me realize how complex it is to be a girl in this world. Like most, I grew up having self-image issues and was highly insecure. I was the tallest among my classmates for years and was constantly concerned about my weight when I had no reason to be. I was also born with a red birthmark, known as a port-wine stain that runs down my entire left arm. So, many unnecessary concerns controlled my life and it probably was the reason why I was so shy. It wasn’t until I was a senior in high school that I started to accept myself and appreciate the things that made me different.
When you think about it, the cycle is never-ending: if you have short hair, you want long hair; if you have curly, you want straight; if you are skinny, you want to be curvy. No matter what cards life has dealt you, I don’t want you to ever feel as though you aren’t good enough, because you are. The grass is not always greener on the other side. Don’t allow your insecurities or other’s hateful words to ever dull your beauty. The more you remain true to yourself, the easier it will be to attract genuine friendships and live an honest life. Have you ever walked away after meeting someone realizing how misguided your pre-conceived notions were about that person? If you allow your personality to shine, your insecurities will be insignificant.
I look back now and shake my head at what nonsense I allowed to affect me. As you get older, you begin to realize that other people’s opinions do not matter. Most of the time, they don’t even realize what you are insecure about unless you make it obvious. Have you ever heard of the phrase “fake it until you make it”? Sometimes you have to act confident until it becomes natural.
My wish is for everyone to be proud of who they are and accept the things that set them apart. If you feel as though you have to lose a few pounds, take steps to get healthy and if you are surrounded by negativity, get rid of it! You have one life to live and you might as well live with no regrets. Remain true to yourself and stay beautiful.
“Think highly of yourself, for the world takes you at your own estimate.”